While the topic of romance and love has been at the root of man’s lament, it is still one that’s source eludes clear definition. Understanding romantic attachment through personality psychology might have saved a lot of poets some heartache. A neo-analytical approach to explaining love, such that of Erik Erikson, sees love as the result of a healthy childhood where they are not stuck at the sixth stage of psychosocial developmental (Friedman & Schustack, 2016). In later years, a modern psychologist, Philip Shaver, and his associates explained that the nature of one’s childhood attachment is reflected in their adult relationships and how they perceive romantic attachment. Shaver explained there are three styles of romantic attachments, (a) secure lovers who easily form close relationships, (b) avoidant lovers who have trouble trusting others and feel uncomfortable being close and vulnerable, and (c) anxious-ambivalent lovers who want to have close relationships but are insecu...
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